About Me

Hi, I’m Kat.

I was adopted. I spent many years feeling ashamed and hiding that fact. I now want to share my story with anyone who is interested. If I can make a difference to even one person, it will have been worth it. I know that sounds corny, but it’s true.

Adoption can be a heart wrenching process and any comfort we can bring to each other can have far reaching benefits.

A note about names. Myself, I have gone by a couple of names. I have used my first name, middle name and nicknames throughout my life. You will hear me refer to myself in this blog as both Meredith (during the childhood years) and Kat.

Also, I have changed the names of people and places to protect identities.

A huge thanks to my friend Deb for the encouragement and guidance to get this going!

Thank you and please feel free to leave comments. You never know who may benefit from your words.

Find me on Facebook here.

 

12 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Sonya Nadine

    “I was adopted. I spent many years feeling ashamed and hiding that fact.” I can SO relate to this! When I went to college I decided to keep it a secret b/c I was so tired of fielding questions about my adoption. When I grew up, adoptees were not given any language to answer the hard questions from the innocent kids and well meaning adults.

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    1. Kat Post author

      I can so relate to what you are saying as well. I remember kids asking insensitive questions and me giving away all details and then them just walking off leaving me standing there wondering what went wrong with the conversation. Thank you for sharing your experience. realadoptionreunions.blogspot.com

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  2. Erika

    I’m a first mother in the middle of 3 generations of adoption. I often wonder how my daughter feels about her adoption. I’m always amazed to find out each individual story & the ups & downs of it all. I think you’re brave for sharing your story.

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    1. Kat Post author

      Erika, I hope that you will someday have answers to your questions about your daughter’s feelings. Thank you for sharing!

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  3. Tera

    I was reading “I have two moms” aloud to my husband and I was startled by the intense wave of emotion that overtook me. I was not able to finish it without sobbing. I think of my own teenage daughter everyday, many many times throughout the day. I miss her everyday. I worry about her everyday. I was not included in the scraped knees, the report cards or anything much beyond what a distant relative may have, although I have always longed to be included. It was called an open adoption but it has been a sorry excuse for one. Now she is getting older, I grieve for the lost years, I grieve for the wall that has been put up between us, and I grieve to know that she has very likely felt many of the things you said here. She has been divided and there is no fixing that for her. Thank you for writing of your feelings and experiences so candidly.

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    1. Kat Post author

      Tera, Thank you for sharing. I am so sorry to hear that your “open” adoption hasn’t really been open at all. I absolutely love your blog and your manner of writing. I have to believe that your daughter will see right through any negativity or manipulation she has been exposed to and will feel the love and openness that you express.
      I would say always be open & honest, always be loving, always be dependable (fulfill ALL promises you make to her) and you will see that wall come crumbling down.
      And that is one blog post of yours that I cannot wait to read about!
      Huge hugs!
      -Kat

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  4. Catana Tully

    Just found your intelligent, insightful blog through Inkybee. I was adopted decades ago, and knew my birthmother. I rejected her then, only to become an advocate for birthmothers after she had died and I needed to understand psychological issues that just plain blocked my development. I loved my adoptive mother and quite honestly, in retrospect, her seductive personality and culture eclipsed my heritage.

    I believe it’s imperative that all children, whenever possible, have access to the body that brought them into this life. No matter what birthmothers who do not want to be found out say, they cannot forget the day they gave birth and separated from the child they carried… and if they are honest, they wonder what that child is doing. The mutual connection between birthmother and child is a spiritual thing; plain and simple.

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    1. Kat Post author

      Thank you so much Catana! I agree with you that everyone deserves to know his or her mother. I wish all adoptive parents could know that it can never lessen the love that we have for them. Thank you so much for sharing some of your story here and for the work that you do! Much love!

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